when it’s just one thing after another. what you can gain from it
January 13, 2015
There are days when everything seems to be going wrong. Days when it’s just one thing after another. Here’s a way to understand why it’s happening and what you can gain from it.
Let me tell you about Allison…
Allison had a bad week at work. Customers were jerks, her colleagues were know-it-alls, and even the Telus guy who came in to fix her internet was not a nice guy. It was just one thing after another. She was tempted to tell everyone exactly what she thought, and walk out the door.
No more jerks, no more know-it-alls, no more feeling like crying.
Except…life doesn’t work that way.
“Nothing ever goes away until it has taught us what we need to know.” Pema Chodron
2 Questions that Will Help
I’m all for freedom, I’m all for a life that’s in alignment with our essential self. But before we leap outward we need to look inward. Sometimes, what we see is that we’re the cause and the solution. Especially if it’s something that just keeps happening.
2 Questions That Help You Understand Why It’s Happening1. What does this trigger in me?
2. What is the opposite of that?
When Allison looked inward and went deeper she found that the customers and her colleagues were triggering feelings of “I’m not enough.” She felt sad and angry all at the same time: Why is everybody treating me like I don’t know what I’m doing? Why do they all think they’re better than me?The truth was, they weren’t, and they don’t. But our perception creates our reality.
click to tweet: @lindsey_lewis: our perception creates our reality.
What Allison Gained. (You can, too).
So this is what Allison saw. And this is what life was inviting her to free herself from: the belief that she is not enough. Allison had recently discovered this belief, had seen how it was impacting her life, and voiced the desire to be free of it.
And here comes life, delivering her with the opportunity to do that–answering her request for help.
The opposite of ‘I’m not enough’ is confidence, self-assuredness, self-trust and the ability to see beneath the surface of other people, to rise up, reach out and create something transformed. This is the gift life is inviting Allison to receive. By placing her in positions where she is pressed up against her own limiting beliefs that prevent that from happening.
How does this show up in your life? Where do feel like things just keep happening, over and over again. I invite you to ask yourself two questions: 1. What does this trigger in me? 2. What’s the opposite of that? This is the gift life is inviting you to receive. Ready?