Last year, this simple Winter Solstice ceremony changed my entire year. Friends of mine decided to do it on New Year’s Eve.
I took my month-long trip to India off the table. I paused my plans for putting other things on hold, and decided instead to invest more deeply. I heard my heart and anchored my head. And the year unfolded bigger, better and brighter than I’d ever imagined it could. And I’d dreamed big. I’d tested my boundaries. I’d included things in this ceremony that my head thought for sure were too far beyond where I’d been before. And, instead of those things, I did things that were much much bigger.
The coolest thing is that the best of it all came from a place of the Buddhist concept of We Wei or ‘Doing without doing.’ I’m not an expert on Buddhist practices. But in my experience, practicing this idea of taking action without attachment can be practically explained this way: We can do without efforting too much, without over-doing, or straining, or exhausting. The strain and exhaustion comes in when we attach our self-perception or happiness to the end result, rather than knowing that our truest self has nothing to do with anything outside us, and that we already have access to our deepest happiness.
about what we want to create in our lives is integral to having it happen. Here’s how this works. We start by tapping into what is most true and most right for us. We begin by quieting our over-active mind, and listening beyond the monkey chatter to our essential self beneath. Our soul speaks in the silence.
So before you do these five steps to creating your dream year on Winter Solstice or New Year’s Eve, do whatever it is you do that helps you hear your soul. Prayer. Meditation. Yoga. Running. Getting out into nature. Whatever works for you.
1. Envision 2013. What do you see? Most importantly: What do you feel?
2. Draw a circle on a piece of paper.
3. Inside the circle: write down everything from your vision of 2013—no judging or editing—that feels right and true and big and bright.
4. Outside the circle: write down everything that you’re willing to clear, to let go of, in order to make space for what’s inside. Examples: Last year one of the things I let go of was my need to have my space (apartment) the way I wanted it all the time. That made space for a softer, easier, much more flowing and happy relationship with my wonderful man.
5. Take the paper outside and place it on the earth. Light it on fire. Burn it into ashes and let the earth and sky take it in. Last year I folded mine into a paper crane and then set it alight on the edge of the ocean. Let the universe take it up and in.
Through your clarity, let the universe make magic with your wishes.