How to Hear From a Kick-Ass Wise Woman: You

Do you ever wish you could ask for advice from someone who knows you better than anyone? Me too. I’m doing new and unexpected things so damn often that I nearly always think “I wish someone could guide me here.” Then I ask the very best person to do that: me. 


Except: I ask the powerful me-five-years-from-now version of me.

And she has the BEST insight. Want to know how to do this for yourself?

Here’s what I do:

1. I invite in the me that I envision five years from now. The me that is even more powerful, that has grown even more, learned even more, landed in herself even more. I really see her in the room. I feel her presence. She is so.damn.strong.

2. I get my journal and my pen.

3. I ask my Powerful Self “What message do you have for me today?”

4. I write it down.

Simple, right?

Don’t be deceived into thinking that because it looks simple it’s not powerful. Test it out for yourself and see.

Also: sometimes I ask for guidance around specific things. My podcast. My coaching. My creative projects. My Powerful Self has never lead me astray.

She says things like:
Stay the course.
Be in your loving.
Don’t make it about you.
Stay present.
Live each moment.

And also:
You gotta get that handled, girl. Start listening more.

She doesn’t hold back, that Powerful Self of mine.

If it needs speaking, she speaks it.

If it needs loving, she gives it.

And she never lets me see myself as less.

After all, I got where she is, didn’t I? ; )

Love Lindsey

Feb 4, 2019 · Read More · Comment

I Started Being Radically Present and it Changed Everything

Do you ever feel like you are in the room with someone you love, but not really in the room with someone you love? I felt that way a LOT. Like my mind was always on the next thing.

Tomorrow. A month from now. Next year.

My life was passing me by. I wasn’t living it. I wasn’t even IN it.

Matt, my husband, would come in the door at the end of his day and ask “How was your day?” and I’d say “It’s not done yet.”

Or I’d go see him for a chiropractic treatment and he’d ask me how I was feeling and I was like I don’t know, I’m busy doing all of this THINKING.

Thinking about what I was going to do after my appointment. Thinking about what I would do tomorrow. Thinking thinking thinking.

I said to my coach “I’m so caught up in thinking about what I want to do and where I want to get to that I feel like I’m never here.”

“Yup,” she said.

So I took on my own challenge to work with my mind to stay present. Radically present.

This didn’t happen with force. It happened with love.

I think Life was waiting for me to land here. Life was looking at me and going “It’s time, love. It’s time to begin to experience life now.”

I kept being gifted over and over with the mind-wheeling dawning that THERE IS NO FUTURE. 30 minutes from now does not exist. There is only now. And then now. And now again.

30 minutes from now is a concept. Not a reality.

The only experience is now. And now. And now.

In a book I’m reading, a fictional novel called A Tale for the Time Being, one of the protagonists considers a spiritual teaching that encourages us to:

Wake up now!
And now!
And now!

Whenever I caught myself going to the worry, the anticipating, the “I need to keep thinking about tomorrow, and the next day” I would remember

Wake up now!
And now!
And now!

and I did.

Something magical happened. I looked around and realized: I am LIVING the LIFE I HAVE BEEN DREAMING ABOUT.

I knew I had reached my goals. I knew I had done what I said I wanted to.

What I realized was that I was experiencing in real-time a vision I’d had for life since I was a little girl. That dream has come true. I can’t quite explain the physical feeling–something like gratitude, awe and thunderstruck–that came when I understood what is right in front of me.

Or how it has continued.

But here’s some of what’s happening as a result:
When Matt comes home from work I squeeze him and say “How was your day?”
Sometimes I look at him and go “You’re amazing.”
When I go see him for a chiropractic treatment and he asks how I’m feeling I have a long answer.
I sleep better.
I experience more calm, more beauty, more abundance.
I look around and see vitality–a Spirit in each thing around me.

There’s more. And more to come.

In my experience, growth is exponential.


Here’s to now.

And now!
And now!

With love,


Jan 7, 2019 · Read More · Comment (1)

Things I’d Never Say

Ever think something you’d only say in, like, a dark cave at the bottom of the ocean with, like, only one of those weird fish with the bobblehead light on top of their head beside you? Me too.

I believe there are two sides to us human beans:

One is ENLIGHTENED, bright, calm, peaceful, loving, at ease, deeply intuitive, connected and even masterful–in any given situation.

The other is BAT S–T crazy. Wink-smile. This is the side of us that can sway from elation to despair, jealousy to swagger, the depths of down-low to the free-fall of highest highs. The side of us that feels stuck, insecure, unsure and…”WTF, man?”

I’ve spent years cultivating the enlightened side. I lurv living from this place inside. Things are easier. Grace happens. Magic. And results: in my personal life and my business.

But it has meant that the other side of me got compartmentalized–tucked away in a little compartment in my heart, only to be tended to occasionally. Stepping up on stage as a stand up comic was my first bold move towards giving this oh-so-human side of me more air time. The Things I’d Never Say podcast is my next one.

Why would you do that, Lindsey? Doesn’t it put your business and your professional and personal reputation at risk?


But what will people think?

They might judge me. Might think I’m too human to do what I do, be a coach, be a guide in people’s lives.

They might think “This woman couldn’t guide a pot of potatoes!”

Or–they might love it. Be inspired. Be touched. Be reassured that their own human-ness is absolutely okay. I’m human. You’re human. It’s okay.

F Fear.

I lived enough years in its shadow.

No more.

So, without further fanfare, please allow me to introduce my bat s–t crazy side, stepping up to the mic here at Things I’d Never Say podcast. I hope it entertains you, lifts you up, affirms and perhaps inspires.

You can listen to the first four episodes below. And, find Things I’d Never say on iTunes, Stitcher, Overcast, Podcast Addict, Pocket Casts, and other podcast apps.

Episode 1: Things I’d Never Say
Length: 27:24

Episode 2: I am Not an Expert
Length: 19:32

Episode 3: What Did I Say in That Text?
Length: 10:53

Episode 4: Our Sex Life is Off the Charts
Length: 17:55

Music: Feeling Free by Nicolai Heidlas |
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Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)

May 19, 2018 · Read More · Comment

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