I Started Being Radically Present and it Changed Everything

I’M NOT REALLY HERE
Do you ever feel like you are in the room with someone you love, but not really in the room with someone you love? I felt that way a LOT. Like my mind was always on the next thing.

Tomorrow. A month from now. Next year.

My life was passing me by. I wasn’t living it. I wasn’t even IN it.

Matt, my husband, would come in the door at the end of his day and ask “How was your day?” and I’d say “It’s not done yet.”

Or I’d go see him for a chiropractic treatment and he’d ask me how I was feeling and I was like I don’t know, I’m busy doing all of this THINKING.

YA THINK?
Thinking about what I was going to do after my appointment. Thinking about what I would do tomorrow. Thinking thinking thinking.

I said to my coach “I’m so caught up in thinking about what I want to do and where I want to get to that I feel like I’m never here.”

“Yup,” she said.

IT’S TIME
So I took on my own challenge to work with my mind to stay present. Radically present.

This didn’t happen with force. It happened with love.

I think Life was waiting for me to land here. Life was looking at me and going “It’s time, love. It’s time to begin to experience life now.”

I kept being gifted over and over with the mind-wheeling dawning that THERE IS NO FUTURE. 30 minutes from now does not exist. There is only now. And then now. And now again.

30 minutes from now is a concept. Not a reality.

The only experience is now. And now. And now.

WAKE UP
In a book I’m reading, a fictional novel called A Tale for the Time Being, one of the protagonists considers a spiritual teaching that encourages us to:

Wake up now!
And now!
And now!

Whenever I caught myself going to the worry, the anticipating, the “I need to keep thinking about tomorrow, and the next day” I would remember

Wake up now!
And now!
And now!

and I did.

WHAAAAT?!
Something magical happened. I looked around and realized: I am LIVING the LIFE I HAVE BEEN DREAMING ABOUT.

I knew I had reached my goals. I knew I had done what I said I wanted to.

What I realized was that I was experiencing in real-time a vision I’d had for life since I was a little girl. That dream has come true. I can’t quite explain the physical feeling–something like gratitude, awe and thunderstruck–that came when I understood what is right in front of me.

Or how it has continued.

But here’s some of what’s happening as a result:
When Matt comes home from work I squeeze him and say “How was your day?”
Sometimes I look at him and go “You’re amazing.”
When I go see him for a chiropractic treatment and he asks how I’m feeling I have a long answer.
I sleep better.
I experience more calm, more beauty, more abundance.
I look around and see vitality–a Spirit in each thing around me.

There’s more. And more to come.

In my experience, growth is exponential.

Yay!

Here’s to now.

And now!
And now!

With love,

Lindsey

Jan 7, 2019 · Read More · Comment (1)

Things I’d Never Say

Ever think something you’d only say in, like, a dark cave at the bottom of the ocean with, like, only one of those weird fish with the bobblehead light on top of their head beside you? Me too.

I believe there are two sides to us human beans:

One is ENLIGHTENED, bright, calm, peaceful, loving, at ease, deeply intuitive, connected and even masterful–in any given situation.

The other is BAT S–T crazy. Wink-smile. This is the side of us that can sway from elation to despair, jealousy to swagger, the depths of down-low to the free-fall of highest highs. The side of us that feels stuck, insecure, unsure and…”WTF, man?”

I’ve spent years cultivating the enlightened side. I lurv living from this place inside. Things are easier. Grace happens. Magic. And results: in my personal life and my business.

But it has meant that the other side of me got compartmentalized–tucked away in a little compartment in my heart, only to be tended to occasionally. Stepping up on stage as a stand up comic was my first bold move towards giving this oh-so-human side of me more air time. The Things I’d Never Say podcast is my next one.

Why would you do that, Lindsey? Doesn’t it put your business and your professional and personal reputation at risk?

Perhaps.

But what will people think?

They might judge me. Might think I’m too human to do what I do, be a coach, be a guide in people’s lives.

They might think “This woman couldn’t guide a pot of potatoes!”

Or–they might love it. Be inspired. Be touched. Be reassured that their own human-ness is absolutely okay. I’m human. You’re human. It’s okay.

F Fear.

I lived enough years in its shadow.

No more.

So, without further fanfare, please allow me to introduce my bat s–t crazy side, stepping up to the mic here at Things I’d Never Say podcast. I hope it entertains you, lifts you up, affirms and perhaps inspires.

You can listen to the first four episodes below. And, find Things I’d Never say on iTunes, Stitcher, Overcast, Podcast Addict, Pocket Casts, and other podcast apps.

Episode 1: Things I’d Never Say
Length: 27:24

Episode 2: I am Not an Expert
Length: 19:32

Episode 3: What Did I Say in That Text?
Length: 10:53

Episode 4: Our Sex Life is Off the Charts
Length: 17:55

Music: Feeling Free by Nicolai Heidlas | https://www.nicolai-heidlas.com
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Attribution 4.0 International (CC BY 4.0)
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May 19, 2018 · Read More · Comment

are your upper level limits holding you back? get more fulfillment, abundance, success and love

I have a hunch this is you…

If you’re reading this, I have a hunch you are someone who dreams of a more fulfilling, free life. Where you feel like you are doing what you love, what fuels your soul. When you think of it, you may also see this life filled with abundance, success and love.

You might also be experiencing this:
Have you been making the same income year after year–with no upswing? Do you feel like each time you ‘get ahead’ or have something good happens, you end up back where you were before? That the positive shift is temporary, or too small to really make a difference?

If you do, I have a hunch you’re in need of a paradigm shift. Because your upper level limits are holding you back.

Do you want more abundance, success and love?

Get ready.

Here’s the bad news: the problem is you.

And here’s the good news: the problem is you.

It was me, too.

The problem was me

I dreamt of a life filled with fulfillment, freedom, abundance, success and love. And reality looked like: 10K in earnings in a year, 7K credit card debt, and struggling to be and do what I wanted to be and do.

Today, I have 10K and 20K months, I do what I choose and what I love, and I catch myself thinking “I can’t believe it can be this good” time after time. That’s what the ‘Thank You’ picture is about—above.

Please know that this wasn’t without work or what felt like really big challenges that I met along the way.

Upper Level Limits

One of the biggest and most recent were spotting and transcending my own Upper Level Limits.

This term is one coined by a powerful coach and teacher named Gay Hendricks. Hendricks teaches that we all have an upper level limit—on the amount of love, abundance or success we’re comfortable receiving. Or feel worthy of.

It can be so strong that when we receive anything—whether it’s an opportunity, a loving partner, or more money—that’s better or more than we are used to, we’ll do something to get back to the limit we’re used to. And comfortable with.

– We might start making more money, but spend an amount that keeps us in debt.
– We might not start making more money at all, because we are unaware that we’re carrying around a misunderstanding that we don’t deserve it.
– We might meet a loving, kind partner—everything we dream of—but find that we pick fights or look for things that might be wrong with this person.
– We might get the job or position of our dreams, and then find that we’re battling colds or being sick all the time.

What do you do about this?

1. Start by stretching. Ask for more money. Go for that position. Take on a side gig that lights you up. Say ‘yes’ to something that feels like it’s happening before you’re ready.

If this feels too big—simply start by imagining doing these things.

2. Listen deep. When you do this, start listening—to the chatter from your mind, your Small Self. If you spot anything like “You can’t do this. You’re not ready. It’s not possible” you’re coming up against your Upper Level Limit.

Underneath all of these is usually a bigger self-doubt: “Do you really deserve this?”

I’m here to tell you that yes, you absolutely do. As you are.

3. When you spot this inside yourself, try this process based on a teaching from USM: “I forgive myself for buying into the misbelief that I can’t do this. I forgive myself for judging myself as not ready. I forgive myself for buying into the misbelief that it’s not possible.”

Then ask: “What would love say? What’s true?” And listen deep.

What’s true is: You deserve it. All of it. As you are.

For me, it took a commitment to my own personal growth and a steady practice of working through my own upper level limits to shift this. I’m so thankful this is something I do regularly now.

Right now, I’m clearing space in my calendar for conversations about how to do this in your own life. This time with me is complimentary and not for everyone. Big things can happen when people sit with me. Greater fulfillment, freedom, abundance, success and love can result. I don’t offer this to just anyone. If you want to apply, the application form is here. I’m accepting applications until noon PT on Monday, June 19.

With love,

Lindsey

Jun 13, 2017 · Read More · Comment

this is how to go from stuck and overwhelmed to living the life you want

Truth Sometimes, things are hard for a reason: it’s time to head a different direction. I was so inspired by a conversation I had the other day with a woman I’ll call Zara. She was tired, frustrated, and felt stuck and overwhelmed about what to do next in her life and dream business. She felt…

Mar 29, 2017 · Read More · Comment

You’re Invited

Lovely you; I was so inspired by a woman I spoke with last week. In our first conversation, Emma* shared how she was tired all the time, working a lot–sometimes nearly 20 hours straight–longing to spend more time on her dreams, and wishing she could earn more money. Despite all of that, it was clear…

Feb 6, 2017 · Read More · Comment
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